Winning at Arguments

How to Win Arguments

Arguing is very hard work.  Scientists have proven that the parts of your brain that handle reasoning goes dormant during an argument.

So how do you actually win one?  Winning arguments can be approached in many ways but what you should be focusing on is influencing your opponent and not proving them wrong.  This is the only viable way to argue.

Before you put up your fists you'll want to make sure you're setting yourself up for success.  It is important to understand that an argument is two-sided and the way you compose yourself will contribute to your overall success.  Here are some tips.

Listen Intently

Reiterate a summary of their arguments from their point of view.  Keep it friendly and show empathy.  Smile and show your genuine concern for their side of the argument.

Give your Argument Validity

Explain the specific details that would be used to produce the outcome you want not just why your idea is better.  Most importantly stay calm.  And take strategic pauses.  This will prove to be more impactful than raising your voice.

Now it's time to come in for the attack.  Try some tactics from 18th century philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer's "38 Ways to Win an Argument."

Use the Extension Technique

Continue to exaggerate your opponent proposition making it sound more general and harder to defend while at the same time keeping your argument narrow and to the point.

Make the argument appear black and white giving your opponent proposition and a clearly negative counter proposition to choose from bringing them to the conclusion that you want.  For example, if you're trying to prove the impact of global warming, you may say something like, "is it not true that there are more cars on the road now than there were 50 years ago?"

Now go forth and argue with confidence.   When in doubt listen to Tim Cook: "I think two people with strong points of view can appreciate each other even more."

There's No Arguement Here

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Top Psychology Tricks To Influence People And Get Them to Do What You Want

Quickly, how do you convince people to help or do a favor for you.  Ask, plead, cajole but in many cases, people are just not interested in helping you out.

But recent studies in the field of psychology have shown that there are want to subtlely influence people to your point of view and do what you ask them.

Here are the top psychology tips and tricks that will help you the next time you need someone's help.

1.  Compliment the Other Person
According to professor Norihito Sadato; complimenting the other person leads to better results.  compliments stimulate a specific part of the brain that builds coherence and confidence in your relationship.

2 .  Repeat Things Back to People
According to Department of Psychology of Uppsala University, repeating things back to people shows that you are listening to them, and agreeing with them.  This builds assurance and determination in your relationship.

3.  Always Request More Than You Really Need

This is based on the time-honored sales negoiting maxim, according to Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
    Step 1- You ask for a lot and probably get denied;
    Step 2- Return later and ask for less than Step 1; and
    Step 3- The other person feels bad that they denied you first; and agrees to give you your second, more reasonable, in their mind, request.

4.   Use People's Names When You Talk to Them

Dale Carnegie was a master at influencing people by using simple techniques.  According to Carnegie, people love hearing their name said out loud.  It makes them feel important.  It also build a stronger bond in your your relationship.

5.   Always Listen First

According to Columbia School of Business, listening is more powerful than talking.  It reinforces your relationship by making the other person think what they have to say is important.  It will help you understand their point of view thoroughly; get information; and builds trust.

6.   People Love Flattery

Dale Carnegie showed that glowing flattery really works;  but it must be sincere and appropriate.  Self-confident people like to be validated.

7.   Ask for Favors When People are Tired
According to research performed by Dr. Roy baumeister and Dr. Brad Bushman;
most people will probabaly put off your favor unitl tommorrow; then they will keep their word.

8.   Make the Favor Their Idea

According to Dale Carnegie, people will agree to help you if they believe that it was their idea or in their best interest to help you.  People do things easily  to help themselves before they will consider help another person.


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